Sam Pinkham

 

The Top 3 Ways to be the Perfect Wife or Girlfriend

 

 

Note: There are always things in magazines whittling on about what us blokes should be doing to keep you happy so, it's pay back time!  

1. Take Your Affection Outside (and I don't mean gettinjiggy in some woods!!)

 Ninety-seven percent of men (which is as close to unanimous as it gets), want a woman who's willing to show her love in public.  Men want a woman who's confident enough in her sexuality to make a move, no matter the circumstances, That doesn't mean you should suck face at the pub. Subtle displays--a close kiss during a walk, a graze of his thigh in the car, even a smoldering look shot across a crowded dinner party--can stoke his fires - woof!

 2. Kiss Us When We're Down

 A man wants to be with someone who will defend and support him. It's easier for him to accept help from you--to admit that he has a weakness--if a specific event or issue is bringing him down. So bring us soup when we're sick in bed; lift us up when a work project is stomping us down. Help a man feel secure, like you've got his back, and he'll want to spend time with you and not in the pub!

 3. Ambition: The Other Aphrodisiac

There's nothing as sexy as a successful woman: Eighty percent of men say they want a woman who wants a career. I think women who earn more than their fellas are very sexy - not many people agreed this morning.....So ambition, even if you don't earn lots of dough - is VERY sexy!

 

But you also have to sync your free time with ours. Plan nights together at least a week in advance. And when you do have a romantic night alone, steer the conversation away from work. Your man wants to feel as if your relationship is your priority when you're together. If you make a lot more money than he does, that's cool. Just don't flaunt it. Sixty-six percent of men still want to split costs evenly. Treating us once in a while is fine, but we'd rather have you splurge on a vacation or a meal instead of reminding us of our financial shortcomings by paying two-thirds of the rent every month. 

Impress Our Friends. . .

You're smart enough to grant your man the occasional guys' night out, right? Good. Boxing out a man's friends is a relationship deal breaker, according to 83 percent of the men we surveyed. But make the most of that long leash you've granted him. Look at his best available pals as fix-up material for your solo friends. And if he's planning a pub crawl, meet the lads at the bar, buy the first round, then peel off so they can spend time together: "You have a blast with the boys, darling. I'm going to head home and relax." He'll keep you in mind all night long, and later on his mates will gripe less when you're on a date during the Rugby play offs It's important for her to relate to his friends, not just tolerate them. "You don't have to love your boyfriend's friends," adds Joshua Piven, co-author of The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook: Dating and Sex, "but you do need to respect their relationship with him." 

How to Look Good without Driving Him Crazy...

 

Thirty-six percent of men say they very much appreciate the extra effort you put toward looking great before a date. He can enjoy the visuals, and you make him look good, too. But if you want to walk out the door without ruining his mood, follow the 10-minute rule: Give a realistic departure time and then hit your mark within 10 minutes. If you take any longer, he has every right to be annoyed. 

 But what do I know - I'm just a man!

Posted by Sam Pinkham on April 16, 2008 at 09:56AM

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